The recipe for a perfect relationship is one that would leave Emeril scratching his head, but one essential ingredient is spontaneity.

As relationships make the transition from “puppy love” to a long-term thing, it seems the spice and excitement somehow gets lost along the way. Just because you’ve been with some one for X amount of months, doesn’t mean your work is done and your days of trying are over. This approach is the quickest way to fall into a boring routine, which 99% of the time, is a deathblow to relationships.

This philosophy is most evident in a couple’s sex life. If you think the moves you pulled during your first sexual encounter are going to keep their motor running 2 years later, you’re sorely mistaken. Especially in a city like L.A., if you aren’t satisfying your partners sexual desires don’t be surprised when you come home to find them with, that neighbor you always thought was a little too friendly.

To save yourself from having these images burned into your memory here’s some ways to keep your sex life spicier than a Jalapeño marinated in Sriracha sauce

Kink it up

Try some new sexual avenues. From blindfolds to handcuffs to sex toys, the possibilities are endless. Or maybe even a Ménage à trois.

1,2,3 and 4

If your sex life is quickly turning into a playlist you’re bound for disaster. Sex should never be the same exact way every time. I am bored already and I am not even there. Never go into sex with a mapped out plan of attack, let it be organic and go with the flow.

A New Position a Day Keeps the Grey Away

Ok this one is short a simple. No more missionary, I repeat NO MORE MISSIONARY. It’s a good transition between positions but this should never be your bread and butter. Do you and your partner a favor go to goggle, type in Karma Sutra, Have fun!

The Best Plans are the Unplanned Ones

Nothing is more unsexy then planned sex. For example “Tuesday Sex Night” or “Hey, you want to have sex after work today?”, come on if you want to have sex just do it plain and simple.

Location, Location, Location

Having sex in your bed is great sometimes but not every time. You’d be amazed at how many fun spots you can find in or around your home try the kitchen, rooftop, living, or fire escape. A night of drinking always seems to stimulate creativity.

Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby

Communication, like so many things in life is key to keeping sex great. Talk to your partner about what you like or do not like in bed. You’d be amazed at what you can find out simply by asking.

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This goes hand and hand with communication. If a fantasy is a little too intense for you don’t shoot your partner down. Instead find a way to compromise so that both are happy.